I love this. I, too, am a recovering self-neglecter and feeling-represser I'm starting to realize what my chiropractor said when she squeezed around on my body many years ago... "....WOW...you are really holding a LOT of anger..." I had no idea back then. I thought I was mostly sad and scared dealing with anxiety and panic attacks at unprecedented levels. But she felt ANGER stored up in some little sack inside of me, or maybe braided through every one of my sore, ultra-tight muscles...I'm not sure. But in the years since then it's started to become very clear. I used to see anger as SUPREMELY undignified, something only real assholes even experienced, let alone EXPRESSED, so I had basically shoved down every drop of it that I had possibly nearly felt in my adulthood to that point. Now I'm realizing anger is often a bucket that contains lots of other feelings that have been so helpful in letting me really learn about myself and what preferences I have that can help me make choices for myself. I was just robbing myself of that before, making everything up based on all sorts of other information besides simply what I liked or did not. And that sucks. But I am glad I am learning not to do that anymore.
I love this. I, too, am a recovering self-neglecter and feeling-represser I'm starting to realize what my chiropractor said when she squeezed around on my body many years ago... "....WOW...you are really holding a LOT of anger..." I had no idea back then. I thought I was mostly sad and scared dealing with anxiety and panic attacks at unprecedented levels. But she felt ANGER stored up in some little sack inside of me, or maybe braided through every one of my sore, ultra-tight muscles...I'm not sure. But in the years since then it's started to become very clear. I used to see anger as SUPREMELY undignified, something only real assholes even experienced, let alone EXPRESSED, so I had basically shoved down every drop of it that I had possibly nearly felt in my adulthood to that point. Now I'm realizing anger is often a bucket that contains lots of other feelings that have been so helpful in letting me really learn about myself and what preferences I have that can help me make choices for myself. I was just robbing myself of that before, making everything up based on all sorts of other information besides simply what I liked or did not. And that sucks. But I am glad I am learning not to do that anymore.
I have not learned to do this yet... but I'm trying.
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